I'm pretty convinced that you have to be VERY ugly to not be able to get any, as a woman. Men, eh, I think it's harder, but that's mostly because women don't approach men much, at least in my experience. You'd think that would have equalized, with all the other equalizations that happened between men and women, like splitting the bill. It's like when I was dating on "vanilla" websites 4-5 years ago. On Tinder, women would always say, "if you're just going to say "hi", I'm blocking you" in their profile. But on Bumble, which, at the time, required women to send the first message, 99% of the messages I got were "hi" or similar. Double standard much?