This goes both ways: For there to be a winner there must be a loser. The goal should not be to win, but rather to resolve the conflict in a way that is beneficial to both parties. "You cannot win an argument with your husband, and he can't win an argument with his wife, not unless he wants to defeat her, in which case, well, he lives with a defeated woman. Well, not least because now you're living with someone who's defeated and bitter. It's not helpful. You can't win an argument. What you have to do, you can't—you can't stomp around and insist that you were right. Look, this happens to couples all the time. So, imagine that one person in the couple is better at verbal disputes than the other. That doesn't mean they're smart. So, imagine in a relationship that—so what do you want to do about that if you happen to be the person who's better at making verbal arguments? One of the things you want to do is, if your wife has a problem with you, you want to help her make her argument just on the off chance that she's got something to say because maybe she's right, you know? And it's going to be in her interest to straighten you out if she has any sense, and it would be in your interest to listen." #Argument #Spouse #ConflictResolution #Relationship #Understanding #Discussion #GrowNOSTR #JordanPeterson #Motivational